Being a perfectionist stops your success.
In our competitive society, everyone wants to get ahead. Be the best, win the Super Bowl, score a perfect 10 and get that promotion are just a few ways we hear about perfection. How often have you heard “practice makes perfect?” There is an underlying belief that perfection can and should be obtained. And, society rewards perfectionists.
The big problem is perfectionism causes anxiety disorders, depression and people can suffer health problems. Often, perfectionists feel self-critical, judge others disparagingly and never feel good enough about themselves (I got an A, not an A+). Perfectionists are plagued by guilt, shame and are often procrastinators (fear doing anything, less they are judged less than perfect). You can learn how to achieve excellence, achieve your goals without the perfectionism.
If you feel you work too hard, work too much and people have called you a workaholic, you might be a perfectionist. Are you a people pleaser? Do you have a hard time opening up to people? Do you take everything personally? If you suffer even one of these symptoms of perfectionism, this is what you can do about it.
1. Strive for excellence and progress, not perfection. It’s absolutely fabulous to want to reach our goals and dream big. Always strive to reach your highest potential. Do YOUR best is YOUR best, not some ideal of perfection! You won’t fall short if you make a few mistakes.
2. Be aware of your time. Spending way too much time on a project suggests you’ve fallen into perfection mode.
3. If your thoughts turn critical, take a deep breath, stop work and relax for 10 minutes. Take a walk, watch a motivating Youtube video or call a friend. I invite you to create a “Wonderful ME” list. Write down all your strengths. Add in any client testimonials praising your work. If you hear that self-critical voice, take out your list and read it!
4. If you have chronic anxiety, depression or you feel inadequate, talk to your doctor, seek out a therapist, get help and support!
5. Accept your mistakes and learn from your mistakes. Nobody is perfect, NOBODY! Better yet, make mistakes and see that it is not the end of the world. Throw in some misspellings “ni yuor blag”, you won’t die from it. Really!
6. Delegate. Stop overworking. End the overwhelm. Get help. Trust the people you hire to help you and DELEGATE.
7. Show respect for yourself. Practice self-care. Celebrate and reward yourself when a mission is accomplished.
Remember, perfectionists usually suffer from procrastination, lower productivity and poorer health. This need to prove yourself is what stunts your growth. Perfectionism comes from the past. Our schools, our society create fierce competition. Demanding, perfectionistic parents, teachers, sports coaches may all lead to that voice that says you’re not good enough. The authoritative voices of the past may have punished you (verbally, physically and mentally), if you failed. That was bad enough. You don’t have to beat yourself up with blame, shame or unrealistic ideals.
If you want more success, stop chasing the perfection dream and be YOU!
You ARE good enough.
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Be Bold, Be Brilliant…not perfect.